Everyone celebrates their birthdays in their own way, whether it be through ventures such as parties, out of town getaways, treating their family in an awesome dinner, purchasing something as a gift but there are those who wants to see a psychic to know what lies ahead after their birthday or for it to be included in their party.

Just be wary of a few things:

1. Get a co-sign

You can’t just go to the first psychic you see on the side of the road. I mean, you can, but it’s pretty ill-advised. You want to know what you’re walking into, so you can put yourself at ease beforehand. Do your research and ask around. Yes, it’s probably a little bit weird to ask about psychics in the area over Yik Yak, Cluck or a UMD Facebook group. But hey, better safe than sorry!

2. Don’t set your expectations too high

They’re psychics, not therapists. Most likely, they’ll be able to enlighten you about certain subjects pertaining to your inner emotions, conflicts or desires and then give you their little two cents on what to look out for. But they can’t tell you everything about everything, or how to fix it all. Be open to the process and take it for what it is, assuming no more and no less.

3. Just relax

The happier you are to be there, the better the outcome. Sure, in the beginning, it’s easy to believe that the whole thing is really no big deal, but people tend to have different reactions once they actually get in the room. All of a sudden, anxiety or a certain guardedness can set in, so try to remain at peace. And in the case that your sense of hesitance doesn’t go away, just bow out gracefully.

In addition, don’t dictate the conversation. In a lot of ways, it’s great to tell your psychic what kinds of questions you want explored, but wildly interrogating him or her about the most intimate inner workings of your life is never going to work. Keep the conversation to a minimum and just pay attention to the psychic, steering him or her when necessary. You know, just enough to stay the course.

4. Take it with a grain of salt

There is no way your psychic is going to hit everything on the nose. In fact, half the time you’re asked a question, you’re probably going to answer with, “Ummm, no.” And the fact that he or she will be doing a lot of the talking, doesn’t help all that much, either. So, you may feel a little awkward. Try not to hold it against anyone.

On the other hand, if you do end up getting super into everything your psychic is saying, be careful with that, too. Maybe she’ll bring up health problems. It doesn’t mean you have a year to live. Maybe he’ll say your boyfriend is keeping something from you. It doesn’t mean he’s a sex addict. Let it all sink in, while also trusting your instincts.

5. If all goes wrong, DIY or call a psychic company with good reputation

If you can’t find a trustworthy psychic around, or feel as though your experience is a dud, just walk out. Besides, there are plenty of other ways to explore the spiritual world outside of a “professional” help. Grab some friends and buy a Ouija board, look up info on tarot cards, research astrology or study up on how to read each other’s palms. Sometimes, if you want something done right, you got to do it yourself. Or better yet do a research and call a reputable company who has good feedback and choose the psychics that each of your visitor felt comfortable with.

Alright, now go make some memories!