When someone is first falling in love, chances are that the guy that you are dating is the person that you feel has been sent to you and that they are the perfect one for you.
This can cause you to go out of your way to make him love you and you might even be one of those people that are always available for that person to the point where you even give up your other friends in case, he calls you.
You might see that you do favors for him all the time and you feel desperate in your soul because you believe that this person is your soulmate.
Doing these things is a natural thing when you are attracted to someone, and you get into a relationship with them. You will do what it takes to make him know you exist and to make him like you back.
Trying Too Hard
One of the biggest problems that many people face in relationships is when they try too hard. When you fall into this, you will not benefit from the good times of the relationship and you might realize that even though you are giving your all, that your partner isn’t giving even close to what you are giving.
It is best if you stop trying so hard and this will cause them to give you more attention. But, on the other hand, you need to understand that not everyone is going to like, love and want you and that is just okay.
There are people in the world that will hate you for no reason. You might wonder why someone would feel this way about you but the best thing that you can do about this is to ignore it and put your time in people that enjoy being with you.
When you try too hard, this can cause you to look like someone that is desperate and obsessive. It is easy to become someone that is always there for someone else, even if you don’t expect the same form your partner, but you have to make sure that you don’t lose yourself in a relationship, especially one that is one-sided.
Signs You Are Trying Too Hard
Here are some signs that you are trying too hard in your relationship:
Putting Him Above Everyone Else
If you are putting your partner above everyone else in your life, this might mean you are trying too hard. You have a life outside of your partner and you don’t have to always be there for him when he needs something.
You need to keep your life in order and balance spending time with him and being with other people, doing your job, working out, sleeping and whatever else you do in your life. Do not give him all the time in your schedule but learn to schedule him in.
Answering Texts
Sometimes answering texts is something that you cannot do at the moment. If you are always answering his texts right when he texts you, then you are being too into him. Talking to him should be fun and exciting but if it interrupts you in the middle of other things, it can be upsetting to whoever you are with.
Be clear with him that you will answer him whenever you get a chance to.
His Schedule
His schedule should not be what dictates your life. If you stop what you are doing and cancel your plans with everyone else just because he becomes free, this will cause a lot of hurt in your life. You will lose friends; you will miss out on fun hobbies, and you will not get things done.
This can cause you to have stress and cause you to have mental and physical problems. Make sure that you put your priorities in order and that you spend time with him and with other people and doing other things that you want to do.
Speaking Up
When being in a relationship, it should be giving and take. You should always make sure that your needs are met. You should be able to have a positive experience with this person and they should know what you want.
You might always give him the opportunity to do what he wants but you need to make sure that your needs are being met as well. Do not expect him to know what you want and don’t expect that he will know what you are thinking or feeling. Learn to talk to him and tell him what you want and need.
Agreeing
You should always support your partner, but it doesn’t mean that you should agree on everything that he says. Just because he says something, and you think he is your soulmate; it doesn’t mean that you don’t disagree sometimes.
Chances are that you have things that you do together but there is no way that you can agree on everything that is said.
Maybe you think that he will disapprove of you if you disagree with him, but if he is that way, the relationship isn’t about you anyways and you might need to move on.
There is no reason to argue or to be angry, just if you disagree, talk about it, and let it go.
Joking
Guys like to make sure their girls are happy and laughing. This is one thing about being on a date with someone. Women will try to find guys that have a good sense of humor.
If your partner tells a joke and you laugh even if it isn’t funny, chances are that you will be unhappy because you are not really feeling those good feelings.
You won’t be able to pretend forever that his jokes aren’t funny and maybe you have never found him funny at all.
Once he figures out that you feel this way, he will feel betrayed and that you lied to him. The best way to handle this is to only laugh when you find something funny.
Doing More for Him
If you show your love by always doing things for your partner, then you will see that this is not a balanced relationship. If he is never doing things for you in return, you have to find balance. You need to find a way to do things for him and for him to do things for you.
Maybe you even post too many posts about him, and you need to make sure both of you are being fair in the relationship.
Behavior
Dating someone means that you know them. If he is not the same person that you see all the time, then chances are you need to stop ignoring his behavior.
If he is lying or cheating, this should be uncomfortable for you, and you should address this. You cannot keep making excuses for his bad behavior and you need to make sure that you are keeping your values.
Apologizing to Him
Sometimes one of the biggest signs that you do too much in a relationship is that you are taking responsibility for things even when he is the one that has caused the problems.
You are always being accountable for yourself and for him because you don’t want him to be angry at you.
If he blames you for everything, you need to pay attention to this. It is one thing to apologize when you do something wrong and another thing when he is doing things to you, and you are apologizing still.
Walking Over You
Maybe you are someone that likes to keep the peace. You might hate conflict and you don’t want to be with someone that is full of drama.
You need to have a balance in your life and if you are finding your soulmate, it might mean that you are with that person for the rest of your life.
Your balance means that you need to be with someone that is there for you, someone that cares for you and will sacrifice for you just like you will them.
Make sure you are meeting someone that is going to give in the relationship as much as you give in it.
Conclusion
You need to make sure you are taking care of yourself in the relationship and that your relationship is healthy. Being with someone that is going to use you will only hurt you in the end. Be with someone that wants to be with you, cares about your needs and someone that will respect you.
Don’t work so hard to make someone like you but be in a relationship that you deserve.
What an intriguing perspective! It raises questions about how we perceive commitment and love—are we truly meant to sacrifice our identities for someone else?
This article offers practical tips that many can benefit from. Relationships thrive on mutual respect and understanding; it’s crucial to keep this in mind.
This article beautifully encapsulates the delicate balance required in a relationship. It’s refreshing to see such an honest discourse on the pitfalls of trying too hard. Thank you for shedding light on this!
‘Just ignore the haters’? Sure, because clearly that’s worked out so well throughout history!
If you need a sign that you’re trying too hard, just ask yourself: ‘Do I still have hobbies or did I trade them for my boyfriend’s Netflix password?’
‘Because nothing says emotional stability like shoving your feelings under a rug!’
The insights provided here are certainly valuable. The emphasis on maintaining one’s individuality within a relationship is crucial for long-term happiness. However, I would argue that each relationship is unique, and generalizations can be misleading.
‘Understanding worth’ is subjective. The journey to self-awareness can indeed color our perceptions of love and relationships.
‘Ignoring haters’? The ancient Greeks would be rolling in their graves at such wisdom!
‘Unique’ does not excuse unhealthy dynamics. One must consider that many individuals enter relationships without a true understanding of their worth.
‘Don’t try too hard’ — oh, the irony! This advice often comes from those who have never tried hard enough themselves.
While I appreciate the effort, this piece feels like yet another regurgitation of tired clichés about love. Relationships are far more complex than just ‘trying too hard’ or ‘not losing oneself.’