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7 Habits of Highly Effective Psychics

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We turn to psychics to perform readings so that we can gain insight into our lives and get some direction and purpose. It’s important to have answers and direction so that we know what to do next, and a psychic can help with these answers in most instances. But, how do they provide these answers? There are many things a psychic must do to not only hone their craft, but to effectively communicate with their clients, leaving them feeling better after a reading.

A psychic must be disciplined and have two main objectives in mind in every thing they do: helping and healing. They have to be able to handle the serious issues that they hear about, encounter and try to help people with on a daily basis. It’s not an easy task, and it’s often not one that they chose for themselves. Rather, it’s a task that the Universe chose them to perform. So, with that in mind, here are the 7 habits of highly effective psychics.

7 HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PSYCHICS:

1. Being non-judgemental and open-minded

Psychics will encounter people from all walks of life, and they may not always understand their clients’ life choices or lifestyles. Furthermore, they may not have experienced some of the extreme human suffering and trauma that their clients have endured. It doesn’t matter what a client tells them, a psychic must remain non-judgemental and open-minded about the situations they’re presented with. No one pays a psychic to judge them; they pay for the advice and direction that a psychic reading can provide them with.

2. Look for signs in everything

Psychics are often linked to the Divine in such a way that messages come through constantly, whether they want them to or not. So, a true psychic is always paying attention to detail and watching for signs. They can come in the form of something really overt and obvious, or something so small that it could go unnoticed. It takes relentless diligence to detect when the Divine is speaking to them through these signs, and must be practiced every day so that they don’t accidentally miss something important.

3. They practice what they teach

Psychics often provide their clients with techniques and exercises to help them in their everyday life. These include such things as meditation and cleansing. A good psychic practices the things they tell you to do. It’s not just talk, they actually do it themselves and are therefore able to give you instruction on how to do these things yourself. Not only do they do the same exercises that they give you, they follow their own advice. It doesn’t really help for a psychic to advise clients to steer clear of toxic people and situations in order to obtain some manner of peace if their own life is a train wreck. So, they follow the wisdom of their advice and apply it to their own lives, as well.

4. They work on their own spiritual development daily

A good psychic is in-tune with the Divine and works to develop their abilities daily. Not only that, they do research, learn about their abilities and constantly learn new ways to help people. This is helpful both to their clients and to themselves. If you don’t work on your spiritual development, and instead choose to use your gifts the same way every day, your spiritual growth will stagnate. Not to mention the fact that it gets boring and it’s easy to get “burned out” if you’re not learning and growing.

5. Cleansing

Unfortunately, psychics encounter a lot of negative situations, emotions and energy on a daily basis. Often, it’s hard to just set these feelings aside when they go about the rest of their day after doing readings and closing their psychic business for the day. The energies and emotions can cling to them like dirt, causing them to become depressed, agitated, etc. So, in order to keep some measure of sanity, they have to cleanse themselves of the negativity daily. Some psychics even perform some small cleansing rituals several times throughout the day, then when they get home, and again before bed.

6. Being honest

Most psychics are in the habit of practicing honesty with their clients. Their clients trust them to provide honest insight and not hold back. It’s often easier said than done, as some of the information is potentially very upsetting to the client, and it’s not always what they want to hear. But, in order to help, they know that honesty is imperative.

7. Being kind and personable

Dealing with people who are lost, broken and looking for guidance is a psychic’s bread and butter. They often have to deliver bad news. What’s more, most of the people they encounter, they’ve never met before. So, a psychic needs to be good with people, approachable, and easy to talk to. And, they have to be able to deliver bad news in such a way as to break the news softly.

All of these habits are important for a psychic, with no one habit being more important than any other. Each one will make a psychic more helpful to their clients, and develop their abilities even more each day. If you’re looking for guidance from a psychic, look for these seven qualities in them to ensure that they know what they’re doing enough to help you.

Revelations of a Catholic Clairvoyant Channel by Clairvoyant Xanadu

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I was informed that faith has no space for the individuals who read since I was a Catholic Psychic. I, however, do not trust this. Though a lot of Christians assert that the bible says clairvoyant tools are devilish, I confidently trust that the act of obtaining God’s message is not.  And it’s just all about the goal.

There were also prophets who obtained God’s pledge and chose to convey it to the world through the help of the holy spirits who showered them with God’s blessings.

The Distinction between Psychic Divination and God’s Intuition

The difference is just from the word “psychic”. This is a stigmatizing term since it is a cliché and used as a negative implication. Back in the days, this word together with the term “gypsy” described clairvoyants who conned and robbed people with untrue prophecies or extremely negative ones.

Despite the fact that other individuals still exercise this, we should know that this sense similar to any other can be utilized for the positive or the negative. It is your duty to determine what you do with that sense.

Perception of the Sixth Sense

Shockingly a greater number of Christians relates the sixth sense with devilish and clairvoyant readings with behaviors of the devil. This, however, makes them unable to undertake God’s work and convey messages of love and light with similar sense. I believe we were all born with this sense but most of us use and pay no attention to it and even forget that it was in existence.

Do you remember having a bad feeling about somebody or anything and knowing who it is or whatever it is? You have ever had a feeling of not wanting to be somewhere but then an accident occurs and you cannot help but thank God that you were not involved?

After interacting with the sense for a while now I trust that we all have experienced this. This sixth sense works hard to make us focus on it through other senses; clairsentience (being able to feel something clearly), clairaudience (perceiving clearly), and other times clairvoyance (seeing things clearly). We, however, don’t pay attention to these moments but decide to disregard them just as the society expects us to. Clairvoyants have however accepted this sense and have made it grow.

For the Catholic and Christian Psychics and Mediums

  • We are good Christians.
  • We all have the same goal of sharing happiness and light.
  • We all pray for the Holy Spirit to fall on us and convey messages in his divine.
  • When reading we are very careful.
  • We pray to God before reading since we think your feelings and environment is very sensitive.
  • We clear the space with His Divine light.

Always be easy on a psychic because the message he or she is conveying maybe that you don’t want to hear but it is what God wants you to hear at that time.

Clairvoyance vs Cash: How to Spot a Fraud

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There are con-people in any line of business, but with psychics, it is harder than with most professions to spot a fraud.

When an 81-year-old woman became separated from her husband of 56 years, she wound up paying $900 to a company called Psychic Readings by Lauren. The psychic seemed friendly, and she was promised reimbursement if her husband never returned, but when he didn’t, the woman found it impossible to get her money back.

According to IBISWorld, the psychic industry takes $2 billion per year in the US alone. With the above story in mind, we decided to take a further look to see just how often this was garnered through fraudulent means.

Indeed, experts in the field acknowledge that there is a great deal of issues when it comes to spotting a fraud. The charlatans of the industry apparently coax information from their customers and then lead them into making higher payments to provide solutions.

Real psychics, however, don’t work like that; they operate through vibrations, and conversation is barely ever necessary. Simply put, inquisitive ‘psychics’ should be avoided at all costs.

If you’re having a reading, allow the psychic to point out some specific details about your life, but only provide brief answers that do not lead them on too much—if they’re a charlatan, they will come up with nothing. Psychics also usually con people out of money by telling them they are cursed.

Michelle Beltran, who charges $405 for 45-minute sessions, was named Psychic of the Year in 2017 by Best American Psychics; if you are not paying, she does not speak. Jusstine Kenzer, on the other hand, is a Los Angeles–based psychic who charges $375/session, and also remarked that a fake psychic will tell you that you are cursed and that they can remove the hex for a certain price.

She also stated that psychic readings are guidance, and that they are meant to inspire, not cure.

This is not licensed work, to be sure, but professional psychics can certainly be penalized for illegal business practices. A phone-reading company was fined $5 million in 2002 when it turned out they were charging $4.99/minute, with the employees being ordered to keep the phone calls going for ridiculous lengths of time.

According to Yelp reviews, many other customers have run afoul of Psychic Readings by Lauren. One customer was ordered to pay $1,000 to remove a hex on her romantic life. Her $100 deposit, for the first session, was never returned. Another customer was ordered to sleep with $7,000 in physical cash in her bed; she didn’t, because she got the distinct impression that she would be robbed in the middle of the night.

Is Your Psychic a Fraud?

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For centuries people have turned to mystics and clairvoyants for advice.  The need to consult someone who can view things from a higher perspective is just a part of human nature. But how can you know who to trust?

Studies show that approximately fifty-percent of the population believes in psychic. Almost thirty-percent are unsure.  That means almost 80 percent of people may acknowledge a belief in psychic power.

Whether or not one wants to seriously consult a psychic or they just want to be entertained, how do you know if a psychic is trustworthy and reliable?

Signs that things are not what they appear to be

  • The psychic tells you that you have a curse that they can remove for a nominal fee
  • You are given a warning that your future is bleak, but at a small cost, the psychic can change your future.
  • You are told that you are surrounded by evil , but a small fee can help remove them.
  • Your chakras are closed but can be opened for a small fee
  • The psychic suggests that you continue to seek spiritual advice, but only from them.

These are all indicators that the reader is only interested in getting the most money out of you as possible.

Now that you’ve seen the warming signs, how do find the real deal?

You wouldn’t hire someone to fix your roof or even walk your dog without getting recommendations from a trusted source, would you? It’s no different when looking for a psychic adviser.  Ask your friends and other trusted sources about positive experiences they have had.  Don’t worry about fidning anyone; you would be surprised at the number of people who consult psychics for help in the daily lives.

Questions to ask your psychic:

  • How long have they been helping people?  (It’s okay if they’re relatively new to readings)
  • Do they have a license? Depending on your location, a psychic may be required to have a license of some kind.
  • Do they have any kind of training, even if its just in a small group setting.
  • Do they have a speciality or preferred medium?

Keep an open, but careful mind

Please remember that no one person can give you a word by word guide on how to live your life now and in the future.  Your psychic is their to help guide you. If you are in a serious, potentially dangerous crisis, consult a doctor or a lawyer.

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Tips For Getting An Accurate Reading

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      I had a lot of calls from customers asking me to do a general reading for them. While I’m happy to do it for them but getting a general reading means it can take a bit longer to get the information these customers really want. It’s kind of like going to the grocery story on your lunch break with no shopping list. You’re racing against the clock to run up and down the aisles, trying to recall everything your need. When you walk out of the store you realize you forgot some of the household essentials. My advice to you, if you want the best reading possible, in the least amount of time, is to forgo a general reading and call your psychic with a prepared list of questions.

Delivering Messages

As a psychic medium and spiritual minister, I have plenty of experience delivering messages to customers, directed by Spirit. Deceased loved ones come forth (concrete evidence that there is life after the change we call death) to share advice and encouragement. This can be a very healing experience for my customers, but these messages are always based on what the deceased loved one has to say. The messages don’t necessarily cover what the living want to know.

Make a List

That is why we at PsychicOz suggest you take some time to think about the things you want to look into before you call a psychic for a reading. Make a list, set an intention and have a goal! When you have an agenda, your advisors can get the information you seek. Keep in mind that there is a plethora of information available about you and to you in the Universal Records. Your specific questions help us find the information you want and need most.

Some customers call for a general reading, but in their minds they hope their advisor will talk about a specific subject. If there’s something on your mind, don’t keep it a secret. Ask us! We’re here to tell you what you want to know.

Spirit Has an Agenda

I conduct my readings through direct contact with guides and loved ones and I ask for insight based on what you ask. That’s why asking specific questions is so important. If you’ve got 10 minutes for a reading, we need to get down to business as quickly as possible. Remember, if you leave it to Spirit to direct the course of your reading, you’re subjecting yourself to its agenda and you may not like it!

Limit Your Questions

Some customers are good about asking questions. But often, they ask too many questions that can’t be answered in a short reading. Here’s my recommendation: Think about the amount of time you’re devoting to a reading. Have a couple questions ready for your psychic (maybe two or three) and then let them answer them. You’re probably looking for more than a yes or no answer anyway. Plus, you can always call back for another reading and get more questions answered.

The Best Reading Possible

As healers and psychic advisors, it’s our duty to assist, advise, love, guide and make sure you have the best reading possible. We take helping you very seriously. Our guides, your guides and your deceased loved ones stand ready to help us help you, but it is up to you to set the agenda.

Do Not Forget To Read Psychic Reviews

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           Just imagine yourself browsing for a new psychic and you saw Psychic Mara. What do you find the most helpful? What makes you think that the Advisor ‘s a good fit for you? The first review you see on her bio page says:
 
“Exactly what a psychic reading should be! I’m so glad I contacted Psychic Mara because she knew all the right things to say without passing any judgment whatsoever. Her reading style was very compassionate; I felt like we were old friends! If you want to laugh, cry, and learn something new about yourself, definitely contact Mara!”
How empowering, right?! When looking for a psychic to connect with, there’s no way to tell how you resonate with them unless you get positive background information. Who better to get that info from than your unbiased peers? This is why leaving a review—especially if you had a wonderful reading—is extremely important to both the Advisor and our community. It’s the easiest way to spread good karma!
 
How
 you review is important: Are your reviews helping or hurting?
Leaving feedback on a product, service or experience is more important now than ever. We’ve come to trust the opinions of our peers on everything from food to doctors to travel, and yes, psychic Advisors! Since we depend on other’s reviews and ratings to make so many important life-changing decisions, we’re much more inclined to review things ourselves (and rightfully so). Why wouldn’t you want to help, right? But there’s a fine line between a review that’s detrimental as opposed to one that’s helpful. It’s important to know the difference.

How do you write a professional, helpful review while still being honest?
Think about why you’re choosing to take time out of your day to leave feedback. You want to help your community find and connect with the best Advisors and make decisions based on your personal experiences. However, we all have different experiences. Say, for instance, you didn’t have a good connection with Psychic Martha. Does this mean no one will have a great reading with her? Absolutely not! The key to being honest here is by telling the truth while acknowledging that maybe Psychic Martha just isn’t the Advisor for you because “Loss and Grieving” isn’t her strong suit and you were hoping to connect with a lost loved one. That’s very helpful for someone who may be in a similar situation as you, without completely dismissing the Advisor for other areas she excels in, like “Love, Relationships & Family.”
Also, imagine you’ve just had a reading during which you blatantly disagreed with the advice or predictions you received. If you leave a comment saying, “Psychic Nova is absolutely terrible—nothing he said was true,” without any context, how are other customers to know what you weren’t happy with? Furthermore, if Psychic Nova’s prediction comes true months later, your opinion may drastically change but your negative review is still posted on the psychic’s bio.
 
This doesn’t just apply to negative reviews—it’s equally important to elaborate and provide comprehensive feedback in positive reviews. When you’re researching reviews on a product, it’s always more helpful to know what someone loved and why as opposed to just, “I loved it!” For example, it’s obvious to see which Advisor review is more useful:
 
“OMG Psychic Violet was amazing!!! I will definitely call her back!” 

“Psychic Violet was the most intuitive person I’ve ever talked to. She was able to pick up on my emotions and worries without me saying a word about them. She also really takes her time on each topic and doesn’t rush from one thing to the other. She doesn’t provide predictions as willingly unless you ask, so don’t be shy asking her questions. I will definitely call her back!”
Remember that our Advisors rely on your reviews to improve and our customers rely on them to choose how they spend their time, money and energy.
Lastly, keep it professional! Regardless of how detailed and honest you want to get, we cannot publish reviews with personal information (to protect your privacy), inappropriate language, slanderous or disrespectful comments, or other unsuitable material. We’ll always respect your opinion and publish your review if it meets these basic guidelines.
Now what are you waiting for? Start trying and rating new psychics!

Getting The Best Psychic Experience

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         Doesn’t matter if you’re just starting to establish a relationship with your psychic advisor or have an advisor that has seen you through thick and thin, there are ways that you can enhance your experience in order to gain deeper insights and more clarity with your reading.

While much depends on your relationship with the advisor and their abilities, there are things that you can do, or not do, in order to help make the most of your reading. Keep these tips in mind the next time you consult a psychic for guidance.

Feel the Chemistry

Finding the right psychic for you is a lot like dating—you might have to go on lots of first dates before you find the one for you. Remember, each psychic is a unique individual and their gifts will manifest in a variety of ways. Keep reaching out until you find a psychic that makes you feel comfortable. If you don’t feel comfortable and if you don’t feel at least a spark of connection, then your results are always going to be a little off. It’s worth it to take the time to find the right psychic for you.

Don’t Be Afraid to Detour

Ask your question, but be open to the answer. Many times you will turn to a psychic in times of crisis, doubt or loneliness. You will have big questions about your life and the direction that you’re going in and you want answers, now. Have a little patience and open your heart, and mind, to the answers that you receive from the psychic. There will be times that you think you are calling about one issue, but the psychic discovers that there is another unexpected issue at play in your life. Trust that your psychic has your best interests at heart and will pass along the message that you need to hear at the moment.

Be an Active Participant

A psychic reading is a conversation and all good conversations have two, or more, active participants. Don’t sit there and expect the psychic to read your mind. If you have specific questions, ask them. Listen to the answers and ask for clarification if what you’re hearing doesn’t make sense to you. It’s likely that you’re turning to the psychic to receive answers, and you shouldn’t leave the session with even more questions. They will want you to have clarity and shouldn’t be afraid to address your questions or further explain the message they have for you.

Don’t Force It

Nothing good comes from insisting that a psychic use a tool that they aren’t totally comfortable using. If you feel strongly that you want a tarot card reading, then you should seek an advisor who specializes in reading the tarot. Many advisors will accommodate your requests, but if they don’t specialize in a specific tool, then they might not be receiving the clearest message using that method.

If you are really out to improve and enhance your next psychic reading, the best thing you can do is to give in to the experience without trying to force results. By keeping an open mind and an open heart, you stand to gain nothing but clarity when you find the right advisor for you.

Easier Way To Find A Lost Item

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         Do you sometimes lost something and go nuts in trying to find it? Have you misplaced an item and you can find it anymore? So, let’s suppose you’ve lost something. It could be any item in your home or in any enclosed perimeter. It only matters that it’s missing.
This story is about a mystical trick you can use to find just such a lost item. And it happens to be a sentimental one for me, because my mother Anne taught me this method long ago.

She Knows Best
The last time I knew of my beloved mother using this mysterious magick was in a store. She was a customer looking to purchase an article of jewelry. I’m not quite sure if she bought anything that day, though I know with complete certainty that she ended up bestowing a blessing upon a woman in that store in what would be the last five months of her life.

On this auspicious day, the owner of this jewelry establishment appeared upset. My mom, being the kind soul she was, immediately offered help. “Is there something wrong?” she asked. The woman responded that she’d lost a large sum of money. Anne was quick to respond: “Do you have a glass?” While the owner appeared very confused by this request, she was desperate to try anything that might guide her to her apparent loss. At this point, my mother told the skeptical woman to go over to a small table, move the table slightly by one of its four corners, turn the glass over and place it on the corner she moved, all the while envisioning her lost money.

The woman, though incredulous, followed the instructions perfectly. She found her glass, brought it over to the corner of a table, moved it slightly, and then turned the upright glass over onto the moved corner, while visualizing her lost item. The very last instruction my mother offered was to immediately stop looking for the lost money and to simply get on with her day in complete faith that the method would be successful.
My mother admitted to me that she realized that the proprietor of the store thought she was completely nuts but she didn’t care much about that. She flashed me one of her fabulous smiles that often made me feel she knew way more than she ever let on about the metaphysical world. She went on to say that the woman excused herself for a moment, stating she had to go upstairs. Moments later she walked back down with a huge grin on her face and the lost check (aka money) in hand. She appeared utterly amazed and overwhelmingly grateful by what had occurred.

Trust Me, It Really Works
I’ve used this method on many occasions, most impressively finding my contact lens in a carpet. I recall losing it and then hopelessly looking before I went to get a glass to turn over. I’ve always marveled at this particular find, and ever since I first tried it, it’s worked. By the way, you can use any type of cup; it doesn’t need to be glass.
Recently, I thought I had lost something, and just as I recalled the method to myself and how I was going to get the glass—a step I never even got to—presto, there it was!
If you’ve lost an object, you might just love this enigmatic way of finding it without actually looking for it. Why not allow the item to find you? I hope you find this method as useful as I often do.

What Can A Psychic Do For Me?

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          No matter what are we in… I still know that all of us, deep inside, want to believe in impossible things. I, for instance, believe in miracles and those who won’t open their her will not see it … As a saying goes “Those who don’t believe in magic will never find it”.

I also have a strong belief in psychics and I have visited many of them, over the years. These included tarot card readers, astrologers, numerologists, psychic-mediums, clairvoyants, etc. Some of them were accurate and others… I would rather forget about as soon as I left them or put the phone down.

Given the many unsatisfactory experiences I have had, I have to ask myself: Why do I still believe in psychics?

What I have learned

To engage properly with a talented psychic requires belief in a positive outcome.

For myself, I know that psychics have helped me overcome some challenging moments in my life. They have helped me with difficult decisions such as moving to a different country and making painful – but necessary – emotional changes in my life.

Psychics have listened to me when nobody else would: they heard my doubts and guided & assisted me in making difficult, often heart-breaking decisions.

These gifted people have also encouraged me to look at life from a different angle and have given me fresh and valuable perspectives and insights that I could never have reached on my own. I know I am in a better position in life as a result of their help and guidance.

How psychics help

Describing the feeling of how a psychic helps is difficult. We are all gifted with intuition, the feeling that something is right for us, without being able to explain why we know this. We call it “going with our gut”.

A gifted psychic helps to deepen this “gut sense”. Through an understanding of our real needs, psychics, in my experience, help us to bring our intuition to the surface: they give us the confidence to embrace and trust our gut instincts. They provide the assurance that our future is in our own hands and that we have the power to change our lives.

Gaining control

Recently I read a fascinating article from a group of Australian researchers. They offered the hypothesis that belief in psychic prediction can be positively correlated to a sense of control over one’s life.

Another new study has found that people who believe that psychics can predict the future tend to feel more in control of their lives than those who don’t.

These findings appeal to me – and tie in with my own experience: in the past, when I found myself going through a difficult time, going to a psychic allowed me steady myself and get on top of things again.

The answer to the question

I believe in the power of psychic consultation because I have proof that it works and is valuable. A psychic helps me gain clarity and insight, and he or she helps me feel in control.

Psychics have given me hope to explore and achieve what at first seemed impossible. That’s the kind of magic I believe in.

Psychics Believers And Those Who Are Not

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              “Faith” usually been the cause of so many wars in the history. It can be divisive, where opponents of a particular belief system are intolerant of those with different beliefs. 

It is a strange thing that faith claims to deliver harmony and love, but in a lot of cases is so twisted that it brings nothing but pain and suffering to those of another belief system. But who has a right to tell anyone that the path they follow is wrong?

Non-Believers

The non-believer can come in many forms. There are the ones who will passively non-believe and allow others their beliefs; and there are those who can become aggressive and even insulting when faced with someone’s belief system. It would appear that once the latter have made their minds up – that there is nothing beyond the the physical world –  then everyone should follow their secular credo. But isn’t this zealot-like thinking exactly what they were trying to denounce in the first place?

The Believer

Much like the non-believer, believers also come in many forms. There are the passive believers who will follow the message of their faith and, because their faith is strong and nothing will endanger it, allow others to follow different beliefs. Then there are the aggressive believers: these are the ones who say “my way is the only way”.  They will not entertain other systems of belief to the point of eliminating those who do. Are they really as secure in their beliefs as they claim to be?

Psychics

Psychics who use Tarot and other means of mediation are possibly among the most persecuted of any belief system throughout time. Mainly it is because our beliefs do not constitute a religion. Instead. we have a connection to spirit, without having any real ceremonies or swearing allegiance to any temple.

We come from all religious backgrounds. The reason could be that we believe the two worlds are not all that different and not all that far away from each other. However, there are rules, and one of those is respect for your fellow man. Remember, for every person on this planet, there is someone in spirit who loves them. Spirit does not give psychics all the answers, only the ones they feel they need to deliver at that time.

Why don’t psychics know everything?

When a psychic opens up to do a reading, he or she can only receive what is sent. I like to think of the relationship between psychic and spirit to be a bit like that of parent and child. A parent will offer guidance and protection to the child, but they won’t take the lessons out of the journey because otherwise you would learn nothing. When you receive a reading, bear this in mind. Sometimes spirit – through a psychic –  will take you by the hand and guide you. Other times it will allow you to find your own way around a problem, so you come out stronger at the other end – but you are never alone. During your reading, be aware that spirit always has your best interests at heart.

Should I have to defend my spirit beliefs?

A resounding “no” is my first thought on this. If someone does not believe, then that is their right. I think nothing less of them for their stance. However, if someone does not believe and spends every opportunity dismissing and belittling those who do, I would be inclined to believe that they are not totally convinced that there is nothing after this life, and are finding it a bit lonely out there.

We all have different journeys, which deliver different experiences, because we need to learn different lessons. Yours is unique, only you understand it because only you need too.